I’m going to side with Alan on this one.
Consider the comic “For Better Or Worse” that someone (I can’t go back and look now) posted under the topic “A Little Train Humor”. If a newcomer to the hobby read that, it would be like my cat hearing “blah, blah, blah”. That person is only going to pick up on words they recognize like broken, solder, not, poorly, again, disappointed, out of-, poor communication, quality, or fix, etc. Pretty discouraging, no?
About the topic of club members talking to each other instead of attendees - I have “worked the table” for many different groups giving out some sort of information. A very common problem is the group members end up talking to each other in front of the table, blocking the way so people can’t see what you’re about. Same with the clubs, you end up talking to each other instead of looking outward. I was always the person sitting at the table saying “If you need to talk, step away from the front so we can talk to the people.” This usually this broke it up.
If there is public attendance at an event, we are there for the public, not each other. A very common problem, but one we need to be aware of.
There is an annual Holiday Train Show here to raise money to move the only remaining station from the Raritan River Rail Road. I am the only one there with Large Scale. So I have to balance time with running the layout, answering historical questions, and making sure the parents can get pictures of their excited children looking at the trains. I will put an oval on the ground, and the kids love it. They will sit right on the floor and watch. I put the colorful Toonerville Trolley up on the table with an auto reverser. The parents who have children they are carrying can hold them up to see. I love watching the eyes on the little ones! No one has asked “How do I start doing this?” but I hope I have planted some seeds with the info I gave.
I will get more questions at the table representing the Raritan River Rail Road Historical Society. I put up the bright red NW-2s and it attracts people with both historical questions, and the most common question “What size is that?”. I usually respond with “G Gauge, or Garden Railroad”.
Well, this turned out to be quite a long rant. I will summarize with “If the public is there, we are there for them”. 'nuff said