I’ve known for some time that these forums have many members that cannot tolerate different opinions. Nor are they able to understand humor. So I am officially removing my membership from Large Scale Central.
Sorry to hear that. Hate to see people leave our forum, there are so few of us G scalers.
Dan Padova said:
I’ve known for some time that these forums have many members that cannot tolerate different opinions. Nor are they able to understand humor. So I am officially removing my membership from Large Scale Central.
Dan
I would like to break this down into the 3 three parts that end with a period if I may? (don’t matter doing it any way )
Part 1 …I’ve known for some time that these forums have many members that cannot tolerate different opinions.
We just ignore them here at LSC as we always have Dan? Besides when Shawn grows up he will realize that track powered modern diesels with pick up shoes will always be better than live steam!
Part 2…Nor are they able to understand humor.
Especially when it comes to switches !
Part 3…So I am officially removing my membership from Large Scale Central.
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Ever hear of a 24 hour rule?
I had to learn that my wonderful humor, which as a navy brat was my way to say hello, was always taken way wrong online.
Wait a day and see who gets punished by your leaving, not them, by golly. Let go of the resentment, you just give them time in your head.
John
Dan,
Some of the most misunderstood communication comes from the written word, especially where emotion is involved. Sarcasm, humor, anger, etc. can be very difficult to hear when received in monotone (what we hear in the written word). It has taken me MANY years to understand. t has taken as many years to also realize that in most cases it was me interjecting my interpretation, not the other’s intention.
Don’t let someone else destroy the friendships and intelligence tou have gained in your tenure here. And might remind you that should this escelate enough, there are powers that be that will solve the problem permanently.
Should you decide to leave, I am sure I will not be the only one to miss you.
IW
Bob ope
Thanks to all, for your support. I get that intonations are not always interpreted correctly or at all, when in written form. But to jump down someones throat because the reader doesn’t care to take the time to understand an opinion, gets old, real quick. There are only a few members who have disrupted these forums time and again. One of them I know is no longer here. There are a couple more, that just cannot grow up.
So effective Sunday evening, I will officially pull my membership. To all of you who understand, I will miss your input.
Sincerely,
Dan Padova
Hey Dan…I don’t think we’ve ever communicated via forum but sorry to see that a few have created such a problematic situation to cause you to want to leave. For that I’m sorry to hear. The help and encouragement I have received on this forum far outweighs any issues I might have ever encountered. I’m in this hobby for the fun and creative outlet I don’t always seem to get in dabbling with politics, at work, or just the “k-rap” that is going on in the world. So for someone to bring strife and and general discontent to a hobby is pretty sad and I’m sorry that it sounds like you have become a casualty of it. Debate is healthy and disagreements are normal…but to take it to a level where it stops becoming enjoyable to me just doesn’t have a place here.
I hope you will reconsider your decision…
Thanks
Richard
Aw! Dan, hang-in there. Many of us give the various Fora a rest from time to time. When we come back the problems have usually gone away or simply mellowed.
Dan Padova said:
Thanks to all, for your support. I get that intonations are not always interpreted correctly or at all, when in written form. But to jump down someones throat because the reader doesn’t care to take the time to understand an opinion, gets old, real quick. There are only a few members who have disrupted these forums time and again. One of them I know is no longer here. There are a couple more, that just cannot grow up.
So effective Sunday evening, I will officially pull my membership. To all of you who understand, I will miss your input.
Sincerely,
Dan Padova
Hi Dan, didn’t Bob add a “block member” option just for something like this?
Dan, hate to see you go. I just ignore the dumb things that get posted. The little emotion symbols can help in an post, just the written word sometimes can be taken wrong. If I don’t like a post, or don’t agree with it, I just move on to the next post and hope people do the same when they don’t agree with me. Like it was said, there are few of us and losing you would be a great loss. I know awhile back someone quit because of a post and the guy that posted it apologized, saying that it was taken wrong, so consider that please! (http://www.largescalecentral.com/externals/tinymce/plugins/emoticons/img/smiley-laughing.gif)
I’ve pulled my login before as well; but then reinstated because majority of members have great articles and suggestions and as Jerry just stated – I just go on to the next post as well.
Hang-in! You can always use (http://largescalecentral.com/externals/tinymce/plugins/emoticons/img/smiley-tongue-out.gif)…
Dan,
As ic mentioned above…use the ‘Block Member’ member feature. And if you still feel the need for some separation, just step away for a while and let everyone cool off a bit. I am the kindof person who will not allow the fool to win by my leaving. I just ignore them. And has been said by others, there are folks on here that I neither pay attention to, nor respond to, however they are few as the majority our Benevolent Dictator has dealt with.
FWIW
Bob “IA3R#7” Cope said:
Dan,
As ic mentioned above…use the ‘Block Member’ member feature. And if you still feel the need for some separation, just step away for a while and let everyone cool off a bit. I am the kindof person who will not allow the fool to win by my leaving. I just ignore them. And has been said by others, there are folks on here that I neither pay attention to, nor respond to, however they are few as the majority our Benevolent Dictator has dealt with.
FWIW
Ditto… as Bob and others have said. No mater what you finely do, your post and infor. you have done are still around and never leaves. “So you don’t really leave here.” Have Happy Holladay’s and get back to the hobby with us.
I missed the thread that started this trouble but it is always a stinker when someone leaves our little group. I don’t get why some need to be mean and bully others especially here. Trains are supposed to be fun and talking about them here is just as good. I get it when the talk ceases to be fun anymore but bailing out at least for me is not an option. There are a majority of good people on here willing to give helpful advice to anyone, for the few that cause problems I say ignore them when they head down that path.
Take a break if needed enjoy the Holidays but don’t bail out all the way Dan.
Yeh what Todd said. Sure there could be a coupla guys here that ‘rub me the wrong way’, but I thought why would I let them push me out of here. I just look at their posts and move on. There is so much info and experience to be had on this forum that it will take more than a 2 0r 3 guys that tick me off to leave here. My 2 cents.
Im not sure what happened. Dan hate to lose you. We have lost too many good people over the years. You cant let a few ruin a good thing for you. The positives outweigh the bad. We have Rooster but we dont let him ruin our fun. Just block out the selected few or ignore them. No matter where you go you cant escape it.
Well, Dan, we took a vote, and it was “Everyone Wants You To Stay” against “No One Wants You To Go”. You won.
Don’t make me play the age card here, but I will quote the great General George S. Patton (cleaned up for the family forum) -
“Don’t let the bstrds get you down.”
Vic Smith said:
Dan Padova said:
Thanks to all, for your support. I get that intonations are not always interpreted correctly or at all, when in written form. But to jump down someones throat because the reader doesn’t care to take the time to understand an opinion, gets old, real quick. There are only a few members who have disrupted these forums time and again. One of them I know is no longer here. There are a couple more, that just cannot grow up.
So effective Sunday evening, I will officially pull my membership. To all of you who understand, I will miss your input.
Sincerely,
Dan Padova
Hi Dan, didn’t Bob add a “block member” option just for something like this?
Unfortunately that feature doesn’t work as you would expect it. The blocked member can’t see your posts, but you still see his.
Anyway - Ill hang my hat with the rest on this thread that are asking you to Stay Dan, or at most take a break as Alan mentioned. Your input is welcome by many, if not all.
Todd-
I also missed the thread - or comments - that initiated Dan’s response.
Personally, I have not encountered a rude response myself - at least if I did I didn’t recognize it.
Certainly, those of us making comments now are neither rude or aggressive in writing. So is the thread or comments in question an isolated instance ? Is leaving a replacement for the lack of sanction you wish to have been administered to the writer?
Bob, any thoughts you have?
Dan, please reconsider – especially if the intent of the writer was to have you cease contributing.
Anybody who leaves this great community of ours just because someone said something to them, or rubs them the wrong way, has lost perspective and being foolish. There, I said it. If you want to let a bad apple control your life, then I guess you leave. We all have a better choice: take the good and ignore the bad. And there’s a thousand times more good than bad.
That’s my opinion and it’s been my opinion through a few of these “I’m leaving because somebody offended me” incidents.