I use the long, flat bladed screw driver, the one that comes with most sets that never gets used, except for uncoupling Kadees. I generally cut off the trip wire, as it always causes me problems, and I don’t use the magnets, anyway.
I find that Bachmann and USA trains couplers, when set at the same height as a Kadee, will work well with the Kadee. Getting the knuckles at the same height is the key. There are those who will tell you that mixing couplers like this will not work, but I suspect that they have not tried it.
Some folks have troubles with the USA Trains coupler coming undone under a load, but I find that a shot of paint will stiffen things up just enough to solve that problem. Dave Goodson, The Old Curmudgeon on this and other sites, has a way to stiffen up the Bachmann coupler that works great. I was looking for the link, but I’m tired, feel cranky and gave up after ten minutes. Maybe someone else can find that link. It is quite useful.
George Schreyer has a very good discussion of Kadee couplers here, and a general discussion of G Gauge knuckle couplers of all makes, here. George’s stuff is worth spending at least a weekend absorbing, then bookmarking for further reference. When I and most other guys got started in outdoor railroading, he was the go-to guy for information.